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Help For Fathers©2007

Self help

How to create change in your life
a step by step approach


Okay we can call this your wish list or dream sheet for now it is not that useful in its present state but it will become more important later in the book. But for now just put it in a safe place and we will work more on your self image.

How you can get more out of life

Well the first thing you have to know is that in order to get more out of life you have to ask for more out of life and you have to be willing to do what ever it takes to get it. You have to believe that you deserve more and then figure out how to get it. What I am doing right here is trying to get you to expand your mind here and get you to see that it doesn't matter what your background is what your education is or who your parents are or the color of your skin. There has been someone from the exact same circumstances as you are in that has become successful and wealthy and decided that they deserved all that life could offer. I read a plaque that a friend of mine had that said Noone can do everything, But everyone can do something.

It doesn't matter if you can read although unless you are listening to this on audio cassette you won't be reading this to know that but even people that can't read can be successful. A good example of this is Wally Amos the founder of Famous Amos Cookies(Tm) He became successful by making cookies because it was something he knew how to do and he did it well. But he could not read well and Barbara Walters asked him in an interview if he was illiterate and he had to ask her what that meant. Now he is famous and no longer illiterate and even helps people to learn how to read through sponsoring literacy projects etc.

My point is it is not where you start from that is important but where you end up that matters. So if you want more you have to be more. But first of all lets make sure you are using your current abilities and resources to their fullest extent before we start working on new ones. So now take out another piece of paper and you can write on the top of it Resources. Now begin to write down the things that you have available to you. Who do you know? What do you know? What skills do you have? What do you own? As you write these things down try to see if any of these things could in any way help you to get any of the things that are on your dream sheet. If you notice that a resource is related to one of your dreams make a note of that beside the resource. This will help you to see that you are actually making progress toward your dream even if you never noticed it before.

The idea here is to begin to look at things in a new and better way. Once you have figured out what you want to do it is much easier to figure out how to do it. How can you get something if you don't even realize what it is that you want? You can't believe you can work toward your dream if you don't even know what it is. So these exercises are designed to help you figure out what you really want and then how to get it. And don't think that you can't get what ever it is that you may have listed because someone else somewhere has already come from the same set of circumstances and done exactly what you want to do or something very similar to what you want to do. So if you can figure out what you want then it is usually pretty easy to discover someone who has done what you want to do and learn how they did it and use that as a sort of blueprint for success. This way you don't have to make all the mistakes that they might have made along the way.
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to be continued