Self help
How to create change in your life
a step by step approach
Okay you say so if I don't deserve it how can I learn
to deserve it. Well you need to start by telling yourself that you deserve
it. This may sound crazy to you but it is true. Every person who has made a
successful life for themself believed that they deserved to be successful and
most of them believed that they were destined for success and that everything
happened for a reason and happened for their benefit. They decided to learn
from every experience that they had in life and use that knowledge to further
their goals. So the first step is to tell yourself that you deserve to be
successful and that you are destined to be successful. Keep telling yourself
this till you believe it. If you like you can look in the mirror and tell
your self that you deserve to be wealthy and that you are destined for
success. In fact many people that you read about that are successful and very
powerful have done just that.
Well, you might say, look I just want to provide for my
kids and live a normal life and just keep the DA off my back. Okay you can
have that too and more. But first you have to believe you deserve it. What I
am telling you is that you can have not only that but that you can have what
ever you really want out of life also. The only thing that is limiting you is
what you will allow yourself to believe you can do. In the Bible Jesus told
his disciples that if they said something and believed it and stopped
doubting that it could happen that that thing would eventually happen. Well
it is as true today as it was 2,000 years ago.
You can have everything you set your mind to. Now this
does not apply to other people necessarily people are not things and cannot
be possessed. You cannot change other people the only person you can change
is you. I mean you can't make someone love you or help you or do anything
that they don't want to do. But if you change the way you interact with
people you can usually influence them to your benefit. I am not saying that
you can get your ex to come back to you necessarily if that is what you want
but I will say that you can attract someone who will have the qualities that
you desire by becoming the person that they would be attracted to. How can I
say that? You can have more because you can become more.
But lets not sell yourself short you are already who
you are and that is a pretty neat person. You are a person who someone
thought enough of to spread their legs and let you make love to them and have
children with them. You may have been married and had a person who believed
that you were pretty cool at one time. So you are already pretty cool. But
now they left and with them they may have taken some self esteem. Well look
at the positive side and see that you are a person who deserves better than
what you have gotten before and that you can become even better than you are.
Why would you become more? Because you believe that you deserve more. So now
you see why you have to believe that you deserve more. So you say okay Lonnie
now that I know that I do deserve more how can I get it? I was beginning to
think you would never ask.
Okay lets start with an exercise. Get out a piece of
paper. Now begin thinking of what you would do if you had all the time in the
world and that what ever it was that money was not a problem either. What
would you be? What would you do? Where would you travel to? Would you travel
the world like Jacques Cousteu filming documentaries and exploring the sea?
Would you be a research scientist working to find the cure for Multiple
Sclerosis? Would you be a rock star or musician? Would you be a Project
Manager on a large construction site? Where would you go what would you do?
Would you visit the holy land and see where Christ walked or go to India and
learn to meditate? What would your contribution to society be if you could do
anything be anyone that you wanted. Just start letting your mind open up and
run freely and start writing down everything that you would like to do if you
could. Do you want to lose weight? Gain weight? Write a book? Find a cure for
cancer? Be a doctor? What ever it is don't worry about how absurd it may
sound or whether you think you can get it right now just write it down. Keep
writing until you run out of things that seem interesting to you as I said
don't worry about how you will do it just worry about what you would like to
do if you had the opportunity.
Now if you have done this I want you to put that paper
away for now but before you do I want you to sign it and date it. We will
come back to it a little later. But if you haven't done this do it now
because it is important for you to actually do the things in this book and
not just read them. Because if all you do is read this book and don't take
action then all you have done is to dream about success. This book is about
not only dreaming about success but about actually doing the things that will
begin to transform your dreams into reality. Do it now if you haven't already
done it. Please don't go any further until you have done this.
to be continued